tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432382804917497650.post8550205534448848305..comments2023-12-30T15:23:47.095+00:00Comments on Is there a Plan B?: Lies, damn lies, and small childrenHarriethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11975259590293860488noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432382804917497650.post-7511959756889001672011-04-12T17:21:55.057+01:002011-04-12T17:21:55.057+01:00Old school here: if I have to intervene in a fight...Old school here: if I have to intervene in a fight, everyone goes to their room. Either they play nicely, or they don't play together, loose the toy they were fighting over, etc. Think of it this way: you don't know what goes on when you aren't looking. The shove could have followed a swipe or a pinch from an hour before and there is no chance they are going to tell you the truth. So don't give them a chance to lie--don't ask. If there is crying, something is wrong. If they can't settle it, then they can't play. If there is blood or biting, both of which leave evidence, then come down on the offender separately. Stand firm (there will be epic wailing the first time you do this) and they will quickly learn to settle most differences among themselves. Same for tattling by the way. I send Cupcake to her room for telling and Christopher Robin to his for doing whatever she said he did. Usually it works in one go round.AHLondonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09082499277171348541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432382804917497650.post-20084896448892217792011-04-12T17:07:33.338+01:002011-04-12T17:07:33.338+01:00Hi plan b
I am so impressed that you are raising ...Hi plan b<br /><br />I am so impressed that you are raising 3 girls under 4 and a soon to be new born boy in May. I'm knackered with just one! Well it is a bit easier now , he will be one in May funnily enough. I have got all this joy ahead of me. He has already started pushing boundaries. Monkeys aren't they?<br />oxoxoDChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14350728294583869939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432382804917497650.post-69910541186136554902011-04-12T11:21:23.850+01:002011-04-12T11:21:23.850+01:00I always used to say that I would be far more cros...I always used to say that I would be far more cross if she was not telling me the truth, and that I would give her a big hug if she was telling the truth.....then the next stage was that the easter bunny/santa/granny at birthday season would also know if she was telling a fib and she wouldn't get any easter eggs/christmas presents/birthday presents.Either that or no CBeebies EVER if she was not telling me the truth - these all worked!! Now she is 11 and it is still easy to tell if she is swinging it, and now I have the 'I have no respect for a fibber' tack. All make me sound a witch - I'm really not, I'm a very easy going dude!dineyhttp://oldermumsarefun.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432382804917497650.post-19740411530263792102011-04-10T17:18:09.180+01:002011-04-10T17:18:09.180+01:00Do we share a four year old?
Mine just doesn't...Do we share a four year old?<br />Mine just doesn't seem to get it. Often she will just not reply when I ask her as if somehow saying nothing means she did nothing. Irritating beyond beliefAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432382804917497650.post-61656343633198219312011-04-10T14:09:30.432+01:002011-04-10T14:09:30.432+01:00Punish the action and then a worse punishment for ...Punish the action and then a worse punishment for the lie. That way she chooses the lesser of the two evils and is at least honest... ;-)Mrs Tnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432382804917497650.post-38536337950105429562011-04-09T20:46:42.381+01:002011-04-09T20:46:42.381+01:00Very common in our house too. I say to my five yea...Very common in our house too. I say to my five year old, 'you do realise Mummies are magic and know when you're lying don't you?' That makes him squirm a bit. I also tell him lies make me very sad and that also makes him think. But to be honest it depends on the child and I can imagine girls being a bit more crafty about the whole lying thing than boys.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13917443753880382461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432382804917497650.post-43504263098983214172011-04-08T23:24:00.678+01:002011-04-08T23:24:00.678+01:00I suppose suggesting you put her to cleaning the c...I suppose suggesting you put her to cleaning the chimney with a small brush every time she does it would be wrong...yup, thought so...ps when you have the answer can you post it so we can all share in the secret :)AGuidingLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05823333742737762759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3432382804917497650.post-13823397272607938252011-04-08T22:20:21.133+01:002011-04-08T22:20:21.133+01:00I have no idea - we are having this problem with b...I have no idea - we are having this problem with both our girls at the moment. Car (3) I can forgive but I thought I'd taught Bel (7) better. She will sit there finger up nose and I will catch her and then she will lie / deny it<br /><br />BNMFfihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17315244804180176228noreply@blogger.com