I'm sure I won't be the only blogger to do this this week. But Tara asked us for A Smile.
And how could I pick just one? I've got three. Three smiles that light up my world. And this is when I caught each of them for the first time:
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Tara has been inspired this week by Dave Fowler's Million Dollar Mona Lisa project, so why not click over there and see a famous smile. Or here to see everyone else's in the Gallery. Go on, it'll make you smile.
Wednesday, 22 September 2010
Saturday, 11 September 2010
We're all going on a....
Yeah, well, you know the rest.
Anyway, we're off. ETD 2.30 a.m. tomorrow morning. Yes you did read that right. 5.25 a.m. will see us taking off, S probably in paroxysms of rage at having to wear a seatbelt, the other two, crossed fingers, temporarily behaving themselves, on a flight to Tunisia.
We're off for a week of sun, sea, sand and babysitting! I'm even taking books with me.
Anyway, we're off. ETD 2.30 a.m. tomorrow morning. Yes you did read that right. 5.25 a.m. will see us taking off, S probably in paroxysms of rage at having to wear a seatbelt, the other two, crossed fingers, temporarily behaving themselves, on a flight to Tunisia.
We're off for a week of sun, sea, sand and babysitting! I'm even taking books with me.
PG Wodehouse and Iain M Banks: reminiscent of chalk and cheese...
After the let down that was the Audrey Niffenegger, I felt the need for some light relief.
Two extracts from the next book that I will be trying to work into every day conversation:
Not PG Wodehouse's finest, Psmith in the City, but you still can't really go wrong.
Excession, by Iain M Banks, had some equally amusing moments, but significantly more sentences like this:
I have absolutely no idea what any of that means.
This was also true of much of the rest of the book, which I only read because there wasn't anything else and B likes them. The weird thing is that despite the fact that I actually have no idea what was happening or who most of the characters were, I rather enjoyed it.
The jury's out on whether I'll read another one though.
Two extracts from the next book that I will be trying to work into every day conversation:
"I wonder why they call this porridge", he observed with mild interest. "It would be far more manly and straightforward of them to give it its real name."
As an energetic Socialist, I do my best to see the good that is in him, but it's hard. Comrade Bristow's the most striking argument against the equality of man I've ever come across
Not PG Wodehouse's finest, Psmith in the City, but you still can't really go wrong.
Excession, by Iain M Banks, had some equally amusing moments, but significantly more sentences like this:
The attack on its photonic nucleus came at the same moment, manifesting itself as a perceived distubance in the space-time fabric, warping the internal structure of the drone's light-energised mind from outside normal space.
I have absolutely no idea what any of that means.
This was also true of much of the rest of the book, which I only read because there wasn't anything else and B likes them. The weird thing is that despite the fact that I actually have no idea what was happening or who most of the characters were, I rather enjoyed it.
The jury's out on whether I'll read another one though.
Friday, 10 September 2010
Her Fearful Symmetry? Her dreadful book, more like.
I think in order to understand just how much I didn't like this book, you need to understand just how much I loved Audrey Niffenegger's previous one, the Time Traveler's Wife (deliberate spelling, she's American).
I didn't read it, so much as inhale it, breathing it into my lungs and keeping it there. I dreamed about it, I thought about it, I read and re-read bits of it, because I loved the way they made me feel. I just thought, and think, it was brilliant.
As for Her Fearful Symmetry, well, not so much.
Maybe it's because I'm a parent of identical twins. The story centres around Julia and Valentina Poole, the identical twin nieces of the late Elspeth, herself the identical twin of their mother, Edie. When Elspeth dies, having not spoken to her own twin since before they were born, she leaves them her flat in Highgate. They move in and meet a series of eccentric characters, from Robert, Elspeth's lover, to Martin, the OCD sufferer in the flat above.
So far, so interesting. But it just doesn't work. Niffenegger's clearly done a lot of research on Highgate Cemetery, which shows. In many ways the book is a hymn of love to the Cemetery itself, and it's perhaps the most convincing character as a result. Sadly she doesn't appear ever to have met either an British person, or an identical twin.
It's not just the little niggles: the flat is in a building called Vautravers Mews. All the characters, and the authorial voice, refer to it just as "Vautravers". Is it me, or is that just plain wrong? It's Americans who drop the "road" or the "lane" or the "mews". Not we Brits.
Early on, she writes a letter purporting to be from an English Private Client Solicitor. Now, it's not Audrey's fault that I happen to be an English Private Client Solicitor, but I can absolutely confirm that if I ever wrote a letter, out of the blue, to the beneficiary of an estate that contained the word "bequeathed" or the sentence "please let me know if you care to accept your aunt's bequest", my boss would have the red pen to it faster than you can say "unconvincing". Not to mention the fact that have you ever heard of an allegedly posh firm of solicitors having a business address of 54 "D" anywhere?
It's all little stuff, but it jars.
And then there's the big issues. The older twins have fallen out over a plot device so contrived and so unconvincing I found myself having to re-read it to make sure I'd actually understood it correctly. Plot spoiler below, so that anyone who has read the book, or isn't going to, can see what I mean, and correct me if I'm wrong. Essentially, none of the events of the book needed to happen, or indeed would have, if any of these characters had had half an ounce of common sense, or indeed behaved like real people. And I'm not even talking about the ghost. I like ghost stories after all.
What I don't like though, as I look at my wonderful identical girls, and try to help them grow into individuals, to make people see them as the two different and unique people they are, however alike they look, is a book that portrays identical twins as freaks. As one person trapped in two bodies.
Valentina and Julia are twenty. They have been brought up in suburban America by loving parents, one of whom is an identical twin who has created her own separate identity by totally breaking off relations with her sister. How then have they managed to bring up two girls who at that age refuse to be separated, dress alike and sleep in the same bed? There's some attempt at trying to portray this as coming more from Julia than Valentina, but surely their parents would have, indeed should have, encouraged them to be separate, to have separate interests, separate friends. They are both virgins because neither of them wants to have an experience the other has not had.
If my girls grow up and feel like that I will have utterly failed as their mother.
It's not as if Niffenegger portrays this as in any way out of the ordinary or odd. Early on in the book, Robert, the lover of Elspeth, says:
I wondered whether my instant convinction that this was wrong was to do solely with parenting twins, and having read too many twin parenting books, and not actually the experience of being am identical twin, but then I talked to one, and she agreed. She said that she and her sister are close, of course they are, but that they are different, and that they have never felt that their relationship is different, in the sense of more significant, than their individual relationships with their other siblings. They look like each other, they share a birthday, their children are genetically half-siblings, but they live their own lives, independent of each other, in their own way.
I've digressed from the book, I realise that, but I'm afraid that after that, every time one of her characters spoke, or every time she described what they were (identically) wearing, or the bond between them became too strong to transcend, my hackles rose, and my teeth began to grind against each other.
I finished the book. I had to. I was hoping that something would happen that would redeem her in my eyes. But it didn't.
I won't be reading this one again, and I certainly won't be buying her next. But what's really getting to me is that this has, somehow, diminished the magic of her first for me too.
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Plot spoiler below. Don't read if you don't want to know...
But if you have read it, am I right in thinking that what happens is:
Elspeth is engaged to Jack. She decides to test him so she swaps places with her twin. Jack finds himself very attracted to "Edie" and breaks off his engagement to "Elspeth" to marry "Edie". Both twins then spend the whole of the rest of their lives using the wrong name. And of course there's a muddle about who actually gets pregnant, and who is the mother of the twins.
So far so predictable. But aren't I right in thinking that the one he's just fallen in love with and broken off his engagement for is the one he's supposed to be in love with anyway?
Yes, admittedly they've swapped, so he'd have to come clean about not realising who was who (and in fact doesn't it then turn out that he's known all along), but isn't that actually flattering for the new Edie, that he loves her regardless of what her name is?
And assuming that that's right, why then did they all have to go on with the stupid charade? Surely they'd all just have confessed, been a bit pissed off with each other because it would all be a bit emotionally confusing, and then got on with their lives.
Oh, and, if your identical twin had accidentally slept with the man you loved and then got pregnant, would you really want her to keep the babies??
Is it just me or is it all a bit silly?
I didn't read it, so much as inhale it, breathing it into my lungs and keeping it there. I dreamed about it, I thought about it, I read and re-read bits of it, because I loved the way they made me feel. I just thought, and think, it was brilliant.
As for Her Fearful Symmetry, well, not so much.
Maybe it's because I'm a parent of identical twins. The story centres around Julia and Valentina Poole, the identical twin nieces of the late Elspeth, herself the identical twin of their mother, Edie. When Elspeth dies, having not spoken to her own twin since before they were born, she leaves them her flat in Highgate. They move in and meet a series of eccentric characters, from Robert, Elspeth's lover, to Martin, the OCD sufferer in the flat above.
So far, so interesting. But it just doesn't work. Niffenegger's clearly done a lot of research on Highgate Cemetery, which shows. In many ways the book is a hymn of love to the Cemetery itself, and it's perhaps the most convincing character as a result. Sadly she doesn't appear ever to have met either an British person, or an identical twin.
It's not just the little niggles: the flat is in a building called Vautravers Mews. All the characters, and the authorial voice, refer to it just as "Vautravers". Is it me, or is that just plain wrong? It's Americans who drop the "road" or the "lane" or the "mews". Not we Brits.
Early on, she writes a letter purporting to be from an English Private Client Solicitor. Now, it's not Audrey's fault that I happen to be an English Private Client Solicitor, but I can absolutely confirm that if I ever wrote a letter, out of the blue, to the beneficiary of an estate that contained the word "bequeathed" or the sentence "please let me know if you care to accept your aunt's bequest", my boss would have the red pen to it faster than you can say "unconvincing". Not to mention the fact that have you ever heard of an allegedly posh firm of solicitors having a business address of 54 "D" anywhere?
It's all little stuff, but it jars.
And then there's the big issues. The older twins have fallen out over a plot device so contrived and so unconvincing I found myself having to re-read it to make sure I'd actually understood it correctly. Plot spoiler below, so that anyone who has read the book, or isn't going to, can see what I mean, and correct me if I'm wrong. Essentially, none of the events of the book needed to happen, or indeed would have, if any of these characters had had half an ounce of common sense, or indeed behaved like real people. And I'm not even talking about the ghost. I like ghost stories after all.
What I don't like though, as I look at my wonderful identical girls, and try to help them grow into individuals, to make people see them as the two different and unique people they are, however alike they look, is a book that portrays identical twins as freaks. As one person trapped in two bodies.
Valentina and Julia are twenty. They have been brought up in suburban America by loving parents, one of whom is an identical twin who has created her own separate identity by totally breaking off relations with her sister. How then have they managed to bring up two girls who at that age refuse to be separated, dress alike and sleep in the same bed? There's some attempt at trying to portray this as coming more from Julia than Valentina, but surely their parents would have, indeed should have, encouraged them to be separate, to have separate interests, separate friends. They are both virgins because neither of them wants to have an experience the other has not had.
If my girls grow up and feel like that I will have utterly failed as their mother.
It's not as if Niffenegger portrays this as in any way out of the ordinary or odd. Early on in the book, Robert, the lover of Elspeth, says:
"Elspeth thought there was a limit to how far the twin relationship should go, in terms of each person giving up their own individuality"Excuse me? The twin relationship involves each person giving up their own individuality? I cannot begin to explain how wrong that feels to someone who sees her job, as a parent of twins, as being to ensure and preserve their individuality. I want them to have that individuality. Even if I didn't want it, they've got it anyway, and they're 20 months old, not 20 years. The twin relationship is a wonderful bonus, an added dimension to their relationship as sisters, and one that they'll never have with anyone else. But then the relationship they'll have with me, or with L, is one they'll never have with anyone else too.
I wondered whether my instant convinction that this was wrong was to do solely with parenting twins, and having read too many twin parenting books, and not actually the experience of being am identical twin, but then I talked to one, and she agreed. She said that she and her sister are close, of course they are, but that they are different, and that they have never felt that their relationship is different, in the sense of more significant, than their individual relationships with their other siblings. They look like each other, they share a birthday, their children are genetically half-siblings, but they live their own lives, independent of each other, in their own way.
I've digressed from the book, I realise that, but I'm afraid that after that, every time one of her characters spoke, or every time she described what they were (identically) wearing, or the bond between them became too strong to transcend, my hackles rose, and my teeth began to grind against each other.
I finished the book. I had to. I was hoping that something would happen that would redeem her in my eyes. But it didn't.
I won't be reading this one again, and I certainly won't be buying her next. But what's really getting to me is that this has, somehow, diminished the magic of her first for me too.
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Plot spoiler below. Don't read if you don't want to know...
But if you have read it, am I right in thinking that what happens is:
Elspeth is engaged to Jack. She decides to test him so she swaps places with her twin. Jack finds himself very attracted to "Edie" and breaks off his engagement to "Elspeth" to marry "Edie". Both twins then spend the whole of the rest of their lives using the wrong name. And of course there's a muddle about who actually gets pregnant, and who is the mother of the twins.
So far so predictable. But aren't I right in thinking that the one he's just fallen in love with and broken off his engagement for is the one he's supposed to be in love with anyway?
Yes, admittedly they've swapped, so he'd have to come clean about not realising who was who (and in fact doesn't it then turn out that he's known all along), but isn't that actually flattering for the new Edie, that he loves her regardless of what her name is?
And assuming that that's right, why then did they all have to go on with the stupid charade? Surely they'd all just have confessed, been a bit pissed off with each other because it would all be a bit emotionally confusing, and then got on with their lives.
Oh, and, if your identical twin had accidentally slept with the man you loved and then got pregnant, would you really want her to keep the babies??
Is it just me or is it all a bit silly?
Wednesday, 8 September 2010
The Gallery - Back to school
This was me, thirty years ago this month. Not back to school, which is what Tara set us for the Gallery this week, but just to school. For the first time. Aged three and a half. The beginning of, gulp, twenty-one years of formal education.
And this was me, on Saturday, five miles down the road from where the first picture was taken. Back to (that) school for the first time since about 1984.
I couldn't go in, it was the last Saturday of the school holidays after all, but I know that had I done so it would all have been utterly familiar and utterly alien. I remember almost nothing about it. I was seven when I left and I have no friends from there and no memories other than those in my parents' photograph albums.
But I found it strangely compelling being there. With hindsight, that day was the first really independent step on the road to being me. A person in my own right, separate from my parents and with a life of my own:
Did you have a good day darling?I've been thinking about starting school a lot recently, not just because lots of my friends, both bloggy and otherwise, have children starting for the first time this month, but also because I'm having to get my head around the fact that although L is now the age that I was then, up here she will start school a year later than she would have done down south. This is because the cut off date for starting school in Scotland is February, and so, her birthday being in April, she will start the August (not September, that's different too) after she is five, rather than the September beforehand.
Yes
What did you do?
Stuff.
I've been struggling with this a bit, partially because I was mentally prepared for it to happen next year, so to find out that it won't be for another year after that has come as a bit of a shock, but mostly because she really is so ready for it.
But then I look at those pictures, and I see how young I really was, and I look at my beautiful, precocious, equally young daughter, and I think of her starting off on her road to independence and I realise that getting to keep her with me for an extra year can only ever be a good thing.
Can someone remind me of that this time next year please?
Tuesday, 7 September 2010
Blogladesh and Save the Children
It'll come as no surprise to regular readers of this or many other blogs to know that three bloggers, Josie, Eva and Sian spent last week in Bangladesh reporting back for Save the Children, and highlighting the work this amazing charity does.
It therefore wasn't very tricky for me to choose the charity to receive my tithed income this month.
Save the Children saves children's lives and campaigns for their rights.
I'm not sure that anything could be more important.
You can donate by clicking here, or you can read about the Blogladesh trip here, or you can press for change and add your voice to the campaign here
It therefore wasn't very tricky for me to choose the charity to receive my tithed income this month.
Save the Children saves children's lives and campaigns for their rights.
In the time it takes you to read this paragraph, a mother-to-be will needlessly die. By the time you are finishing work or picking the kids up from school, 24,000 babies will not have survived their first day of life. By the end of next year, 9 million children won't have made it to their fifth birthday. Time is running out. It's time to press for change.
I'm not sure that anything could be more important.
You can donate by clicking here, or you can read about the Blogladesh trip here, or you can press for change and add your voice to the campaign here
Thursday, 2 September 2010
Digitally re:Masterpieces - The Black Brook
When I was a moody and overly-romantic teenager (as against being a moody and overly-romantic 33-year-old, clearly) I loved this picture:
It's called the Black Brook and was painted in 1908 by the American artist John Singer Sargent. It's in the Tate Collection, although I can't actually work out if it's on display (and if so, in which Gallery).
Anyway, as I say, I loved it. I loved the melancholy feeling, and the fluidity of the water, and the placid beauty of the model. I sort of hoped that when I grew up, I'd look like that, and probably that I'd float about in drifty clothes like that too.
Now I am grown up, I've realised the impracticality of wafty linen, and I've accepted that my face is my face, and very rarely looks placid. I'm not really so given to imagining myself sitting dreamily by a rushy brook these days either, but I still love this painting.
I think now, it's more about the water, and the way the light sparkles, and the cold and freshness that you can feel, even through the oil and canvas, so, in trying to recreate it, I started with this:
which I'm actually very pleased with, but it's not quite right. Singer Sargent put a girl in his (his niece, Rose Marie Ormond) for a reason. So I got myself a model. Disappointingly that didn't entirely make things easier. For a start Rose was probably a bit more helpful and accommodating, and she certainly wouldn't have refused to stop sucking her fingers.
Sadly too, the way the path runs along the river doesn't allow for the same composition, and I wasn't prepared to risk drowning (I know, shameful lack of commitment). I'm also not sure that the Tweed, one of Scotland's premier salmon fishing rivers, really qualifies as a brook, but I had to work with what I had, so here's my version:
The Black River (2010)
Linky below... go on, join in! Do this painting, do another one, do a different art form altogether (Tracey Emin's Bed anyone?)...
Oh, and I do know what I want to do next month (clue, it's a sculpture) but again, it's a bit model-dependent, so I don't want to push my luck by telling you want it is, come back at the beginning of October to see if I've succeeded.
And if none of this is making any sense, click here to see what on earth it is that I'm trying to achieve...
It's called the Black Brook and was painted in 1908 by the American artist John Singer Sargent. It's in the Tate Collection, although I can't actually work out if it's on display (and if so, in which Gallery).
Anyway, as I say, I loved it. I loved the melancholy feeling, and the fluidity of the water, and the placid beauty of the model. I sort of hoped that when I grew up, I'd look like that, and probably that I'd float about in drifty clothes like that too.
Now I am grown up, I've realised the impracticality of wafty linen, and I've accepted that my face is my face, and very rarely looks placid. I'm not really so given to imagining myself sitting dreamily by a rushy brook these days either, but I still love this painting.
I think now, it's more about the water, and the way the light sparkles, and the cold and freshness that you can feel, even through the oil and canvas, so, in trying to recreate it, I started with this:
which I'm actually very pleased with, but it's not quite right. Singer Sargent put a girl in his (his niece, Rose Marie Ormond) for a reason. So I got myself a model. Disappointingly that didn't entirely make things easier. For a start Rose was probably a bit more helpful and accommodating, and she certainly wouldn't have refused to stop sucking her fingers.
Sadly too, the way the path runs along the river doesn't allow for the same composition, and I wasn't prepared to risk drowning (I know, shameful lack of commitment). I'm also not sure that the Tweed, one of Scotland's premier salmon fishing rivers, really qualifies as a brook, but I had to work with what I had, so here's my version:
The Black River (2010)
Linky below... go on, join in! Do this painting, do another one, do a different art form altogether (Tracey Emin's Bed anyone?)...
Oh, and I do know what I want to do next month (clue, it's a sculpture) but again, it's a bit model-dependent, so I don't want to push my luck by telling you want it is, come back at the beginning of October to see if I've succeeded.
And if none of this is making any sense, click here to see what on earth it is that I'm trying to achieve...
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