... and I don't want Daddy.
L is going through a phase. And it's a phase that's making all of us miserable (including S&A who don't like crossness and crying - who does?).
To put it simply: she doesn't want Daddy. Ever.
The other morning, when we woke up, B was first in to her room. L took one look at him, screamed "Go away! I want mummy!" and slapped him in the face. This is not an isolated incident.
Let me put this into context. B is an awesome father. A friend of mine was telling me this morning about something she'd read in a (nameless, sorry, I didn't catch a name) blog about whether you married a good husband or a good father. I'm either really lucky or really good at choosing, because I got both. B is amazing. he's hands-on, patient (mostly) and prepared to be climbed on, puked on, and generally run ragged. Even better, he works from home, so he's here all the time.
But L doesn't want him. In the end I refused to come downstairs until she decided to be nice to Daddy, and eventually that worked. But it's horrid. I don't like being cross with her; she can't, surely, like screaming and shouting; and it's really, unbelievably, hurtful for B who utterly adores her. It's also knackering for me, because guess who has to put on all the pairs of shoes, get all the cups of milk, read all the stories, fetch all the toys that she's left elsewhere, push all the pushchairs and, of course, empty all the potties...?
I realise it's just, as I said, a phase, and somehow I found it heartening to discover during a whingy phone call that my friend LC is going through the same thing with her daughter, so it's clearly not just us. But this really isn't one that I, or B, want, or have the heart, to wait out.
ps. I started this yesterday, and never got round to posting it. Of course last night, she and B were absolutely best of friends. Just by force of circumstance he ended up doing her bath while I was with A&S, and they had a wonderful time during that, and stories and into bed. I heaved a huge sigh of relief, only to wake up to her demanding Mummy again this morning....
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