Apropos of nothing, while on the loo (her, not me), about ten minutes ago (after bedtime, procrastinating):
L: Mummy, in my new house there will be a bed for Molly.
(Note: Statement of fact, not a question. Molly is 4 1/2 and role model, best friend, potty training inspiration and god in L's eyes. Quite how Molly sees L is less clear).
L: And Ellie can sleep in the tent.
(Ellie is Molly's younger sister. Actually closer in age to L than Molly is, but clearly a lower class of being. The tent, for the avoidance of doubt, is actually a travel cot. Even L isn't planning on putting Ellie in the garden).
Me: Yes lovely girl. Of course there'll be a bed for Molly and Ellie at our new house.
L: Mummy, are we going in the car to our new house?
(Note: New house as yet to be found, much less bought. Logistics of moving not something that has yet crossed my mind).
Me: Well, we might go in the car, but we might go on a plane.
(New house in Scotland, so that's not as ridiculous as it sounds, at least for moving children, if not stuff)
L: Yes! A plane! And I'm going to take my plane, and Mummy Sheep and Dingle Sheep and Other One Sheep (yes, that really is his name) and Chick. Because they're my favourites. And my white blanket.
Me: Ok. You can take all of them.
L: And somebody nice is going to live in this house.
Me: I hope so.
L: And Daddy is going to stay here.
Me: Well, actually I think Daddy's going to come with us. Is that ok? Do you think Daddy should stay here or come with us and live in the new house?
L: (Thinks). He can come with us, ok, Mummy?
Aside from the comedy potential of leaving B here for purchasers to discover when they move in, and I think her logic was that it would be nice for them to have him rather than that she didn't want him, I'm not entirely sure why I felt the need to post this conversation.
But I did. And I think it's because somehow it made me feel sad. Sad that we're leaving this house (eventually) and sad that she sort of understands, but doesn't, that everything's going to change...And how do you explain that to a 2 3/4-year-old, when this is all she's ever known?
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